Finally an Answer to Texting Conundrum

Apologies to all my readers for a long absence. It's been a hectic couple of months. I'm back with a very clever diagram that answer that age old question- Should I text him? Well, find out below:

Quick Kick in the Pant's Guide to Finding Your Boyfriend in 2012

In the spirit of New Years and planning for the future I have a post about how you can meet your boyfriend you've been seeking - this year.

Below is a great post I came across at one of the forums that I frequently visit with a list of guidelines not only going out there and finding the guy who's searching for you but also how to get your life in shape, written in a kick in the pants tone.  I've included some notes in parenthesize. 

"Firstly, I've been in a relationship for 30 years now.

My first relationship didn't come along until I was 21. (This guy is a bit ahead of a lot of guys who don't haven't even come out at 30 yet)

That did not stop me from having fun and working hard at finding the right guy. I hate to say it again, but a lot of the young (gay/bi guys) these days seem to think that a relationship is something on FacepageTwitterBook. It isn't. Many seem to think that a bf will fall from the sky into their lap. He won't. (Very true statement but online dating has it's meritts and is good to cast the widest net to use alongside offline dating)

A lot of people think a relationship or having a bf is all about cuddling and hugging. If that is what you want, then I suggest getting a dog. In my case, I had no hesitation moving right to sex once there was a real connection. With both of my LTR's we ripped the sheets up the first date and our passion for each other and our sexual compatibility solidified the relationship.

(While different people have different rules about hooking up please note he isn't referring to hooking up- it's the how many dates should you go on before having sex rule he's referring to. Do what feel's best for you if there's chemistry. Seems like counter intutive advice for building a long term relationship but a lot of people have gotten in great long term relationships where there was mutual attraction and they didn't wait)

If you are chronically depressed and in need of counselling, seek this out. And I will repeat the rest of this for you only one more time. A lot of it is the same as Palbert wrote so pay attention to us because we're older, with a lot of direct experience and seeing what friends have gone through as well.

1. Shut your computer off at 10pm. Get sleep. Otherwise, you are creating the garden where depression and anxiety flourish best.

2. Go outside. Get fresh air.

3. Meet people in coffee shops, bookstores, restaurants and social groups.

4. Join something positive. Like a study group or a group that shares some of your interests.

5. Volunteer for something. Make someone else's life better.

6. Give yourself a makeover and pay attention to your grooming and weight. And posture.

7. Get more exercise. Go to a gym. Go running.

8. Give up all the junk food and msg/hfcs garbage that is messing with your metabolism and probably contributing to your emotional crashes.

9. Read more books and become a more interested and interesting person.

10. Get over the jealousy thing right now. It isn't becoming. Just because others have found happiness isn't a reason to spend your time just being bitter and resentful of others.

If you think you are a bit broken, then use the upcoming year to set yourself right...

But do not waste your life looking for pity and attention because you are either too lazy or unwilling to jump out there and really live.

There is only a limited supply of sympathy for anyone who complains about their life but doesn't do anything to improve themselves or take some chances in finding love."

There you have it, a kick in the pants, introspective guide to getting a boyfriend in 2012. Happy New Year all!

It's Time Ad

Just a quick update to pass along a moving and heartfelt advertisement for marriage equality.

I'm From Driftwood- Stories of LGBT Individuals and Couples

I just stumbled across a great channel on YouTube that I'd like to share with my reader's: http://www.youtube.com/user/ImFromDriftwood (and also, imfromdriftwood.com)

More next time.

Famous Gays Thorughout History

Gay's have been around since the dawn of man, perhaps even before then. I came across a list that sparked my curiosity, a list consisting of famous gay throughout history going all the way back to ancient Greek times

While many of the famous people on this list's sexuality cannot be verified it's still an interesting and very comprehensive lists of famous individuals most of whom may have been gay or bi (can't leave out the bi's)

Famous gay men throughout history

Under the Pink Carpet: List of 230 Openly Gay Actors

IMDB has complied a great list of nearly 230 openly gay actors which is worth a look, just to see if some of your favorites are on the list.

It's Here! Gay Dating Blueprint Finally Available

Finally the Gay Dating Blueprint has been launched!

This dating guide is for anyone who wants to go on their first gay date- but hasn't yet. If your dating confidence is lacking than not knowing what to say or do lowers your confidence and the lack of confidence stops you from even trying to date. But what if you knew how to approach guys you're interested in? What if you knew what to say? And what to do on the actual date?


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