Everyone feels lonely from time to but for gay men (especially closeted gay men) this feeling of loneliness can be magnified by the fact that we think we feel there's no one else like us or understands us- which is a great misconception as there are many great gay men like us. We just have to find them. Here's some great simple advice from the coming out section of Justusboys.com that can help begin to overcome loneliness:
"We've all been there ( or many guys anyway).
You're shy and not confident about making friends....
Why do people at school think you're a weirdo?
Now here's something really simple and really economical to do. Start doing this and you are going to see a big difference in your life.
Start smiling and saying hello to everyone you run into.
This is so easy. Every person you have in class. Your teachers. Bus drivers. Everyone. Everyday. Even when you might not think you're in the mood.
Ask people how they are that day. And smile at them.
Ask people you'd like to get to know for easy things.
A lot of young kids set themselves up as non-conformists or weird as a defense mechanism...and then find it apparently had the desired effect to the detriment of their social life.
So. Normalize some. Meet people halfway. Try to show some real interest and enthusiasm for the things they like while trying to expose them to new ideas and experiences too.
Get out and volunteer to help some organization. Seriously. Learn to live beyond the boundaries of your own ego."
It might seem cheesy but it's true smiling or being more receptive to people can really make a world of difference.
More great advice on combating loneliness over at succeedsocially.com. There are a ton of other great lonely gay guys looking for someone just like you- you just have to find them and meet them halfway.
More next time.