I came across a quote that perfectly sums up approaching guys.
"Meeting gay guys in your private life can be scary. It’s more vulnerable to be seen as you, not your job title. It’s not easy to put yourself out there. Outside of business, men have a lot of social barriers to break through to meet each other. Gay men have the help of strong attraction to assist them, but it can still be hard for us to break the ice. Approaching other gay men involves intense emotions, including anxiety and a sense of vulnerability." -Angelo Pezzote