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Coming Out Video

More promotion of my favorite gay Youtuber's. This time a great coming out story from Iamonlychasingchange:

Happy Naked Gay Boy Blog Video!

I'm not sure if my reader's are familiar with Erik (straightactinggaguy) from YouTube but I'm a fan of his videos. Ok, I'll admit it I've also had a bit of a crush on him for some time (can you blame me? :) If you haven't already, check out his YouTube channel. It's definitely worth a watch or two. 




Also, I haven't been posting as much as I'd like because I'm in the process of writing my gay dating ebook. There's a real lack of a good ebook that shows today's generation of gay abd bi guys the process of dating. It's about time. Be on the lookout for that in the near future.

More next time.

Gay Marriage Tipping Point

The debate over gay marriage won't be a debate in a couple of more years and for the first time this year more people than ever support gay marriage. According to Think Progress the amount of those who support gay marriage is increasing while the number of those who oppose it are declining.

It will be interesting to see how it plays out in the upcoming elections and what each candidate has to say about the right to marry.


More next time.

Best Looking Guys in Silicon Valley

Today I have a post with a unique list of the top hot guys we're not all too familiar with (or many of us anyway).

We are all familiar with the tech nerds and moguls of Silicon Valley who come to mind; Sergey and Larry, Bill and Steve. But there's some really hot or at least cute startup CEO's who are easy on the eyes and are this generation's equivalent to Steve and Bill.

Plus, hot geeky types are very in demand I've heard because beauty and brains make the perfect combo.

Here's my list the top good looking guys in Silicon Valley, all will not agree but I think we can all agree on number one:

1. Peter Cashmore

No he's not a model, although he probably was one to get through the startup phase. Pete blows all the other good looking tech guys out of the water.

First of all he's incredibly handsome (scratch that he's hot) and he even has "cash" in his last name- combined with "more". This Mashable CEO is very well... mashable. Business and pleasure don't mix but we think it just might with him. I like to think of him as Silicon's Valley's James Bond, cool tech gadgets, nice cars and a British accent too. A definite keeper.

2. Tim Ferris

Author, tech startup CEO, diet guru  and all around Mr. Do Everything comes in at number two.

Love him or hate him- he's cute. You gotta admit that. He tends to polarize people based on his first book, The 4 Hour Work Week.

But there's something about that smirky smile that makes you think if you saw him in a bar "This guy's might be a jerk but he's too dang cute to pass up and I know he know's how to say all the right things."

He hooked me with his look and his book.


3. Kevin Rose

You may know a little site Kevin created a couple of years ago called Digg. He nails the geek chic look perfectly.

Though, I still can't decide if he looks better with shaggy hair or his new shaven look, he's cute either way.













4. Matthew Inman

Theoatmeal.com is a wonderfully snarky website that also has a wonderfully good looking creator. He's the type of guy who is cynical yet charming enough to win you over because much of his cynical observations are true and funny.

Did I mention he's pretty dang cute too?





















5. Mark Zukerburg

Mark Zuckerburg? The evil genius who want's to steal everyone's "private" information?

Yes, I said it. Yes, the Mark Zukerburg, the founder of Facebook and the Bill Gates of our generation, is kind of on the cute side. No I'm not drunk.

He's grown on me and whatever you think of him, I think he's kind of cute in a certain geeky way. I think he looks better in person than in most photographs but there are some pretty good photos of him (like the one posted) that make you stop and go "hmmm.. you know what, he is kind of cute."


Agree or disagree let me know what you think.

The Adonis Factor

I came across an interesting film at a forum I frequent about that deals with body image in the gay community. It's a telling look into the psyche of buff guys or guys who want to mold their bodies into their "perfect" body.

I almost didn't watch the whole thing because I got really turned off by the men in the first 5 minutes of but if you're able to get past that you'll be able to tell what they're really saying.

You can view the whole documentary below after the jump:

Gay Video & Lesbian Movies - Logo: Fierce TV

Studying the Gay Stereotypes

OKCupid conducted a great study last year that I kept forgetting to make a post about. They wanted to test if some of the stereotypes hold water about the GLBT community or if they're just that- stereotypes.

The took data samples from the their 3.2 million users and crunched the numbers some of what they found was surprising, some was not so surprising.

The first thing they tested was the myth that gay guys are chasing after straight guys and are absolutely obsessed with them.

"We combed through over 4 million match searches, and found virtually no evidence of it:

Match Search Returns

• only 0.6% of gay men have ever searched for straight matches.
• only 0.1% of lesbians have ever searched for straight matches.
• only 0.13% of straight people's profile visitors are gay."

Despite what you read on forums, blogs and especially Craigslist gay guys aren't after straight guys. (I'm not going to get in the whole straight acting debate as that's a whole other post and a pandora's box.)

Then they tested out if gay men are more promiscuous than straight men. There's a lot of people who believe just because people are gay means they hookup more than polar opposite sexualities. Here's what OK Cupid found after combing through 4 million profiles where users reported the number of sex partners:

Median Reported Sex Partners

• straight men: 6
• gay men: 6
• straight women: 6
• gay women: 6

Even though the medians are all suspiciously 6 I believe gay men aren't any more promiscuous than straights. Humans- gay or straight- who are sexually active are going to have numerous sex partners. But the majority of people (gay or straight) are not going to be indiscriminately having sex with just anybody else. Being sexually active and being promiscuous are two different things.

Here's a graph of the above data:

Here's some surprising and interesting data. OK Cupid looked at same sex experience and attraction in self identified straight people to double check for bisexual/ curious leanings. Here's what they found for men: "As for straight men, a surprisingly high 13% have had a same-sex experience, and another 5% haven't yet but would like to."  

13% may not seem high but there are hundreds of millions of men in this nation (around 150 million currenlty) and when you take 13% of them you get nearly 20 million. That's a huge number- almost the size of the NYC metro population in fact.

As for women, well the graph speaks for itself:

Then, they looked at some really interesting data- where are all these curious guys in the country? They took the location in the profiles from these guys and gals and created a curious heat map of the US and Canada and here's what they found:

The geography of the bisexual/ curious guys is very interesting and surprising. First of all Canada is where they all are apparently but look at the Northwest. Washington state is the most curious/ bi state in America and it's not just because of all the open minded younger people in Seattle either- they're all over the state. And finally the Northeast which is not that surprising.

What is even more interesting is looking at the metro areas. San Francisco is obvious but the other cities aren't what you'd think. Madison, St.Louis, Austin, Phoenix, Las Vegas (what happens in Vegas really does stay in Vegas), Pittsburgh, Salt Lake City, Kansas City, Columbus and Minneapolis. A large group of the cities are in the Midwest and plain states. 

You'd think New York and Miami would be bright red but apparently not according to the findings of the team at OK Cupid. It's interesting to think why this is. Possible because there's a large out GLBT population in New York and other major gay meccas so it's easier to be out and have outlets to explore your curiosity/ bisexuality. Maybe it's the presence of colleges there, a lot of curious/bi guys in college and the number of open minded guys on college campuses is increasing.

Interesting data nonetheless.

Despite what the south reported I'm sure there's more repressed curiosity going on down there than they're letting on, especially in Mississippi and Alabama.