The Photgraphy of Bruce Weber

Bruce Weber, better known as Abercrombie and Fitch's rock star photographer, has some great images that celebrate the male form in an artful, tasteful and sensual way.

I actually, don't think there's enough of this type of imagery in advertising that focuses on men because there's so much image (sexualization) of female models in ads and they are the main focal point in ads and America in general is less comfortable with bare skin in advertising than other countries, specifically Europe.

Whatever you think of the A&F brand here's some of my favorite Bruce Weber images:

Lot of Weber's images remind me of summer so this one is only fitting.

Weber himself is gay and that's why I think the A&F brand has become so popular with the GB community because these images tap right into our desires and play to our psyche. More on that later.

Leaning Towards the Davey Wavey Fan Club

I've recently discovered Davey Wavey on YouTube after looking up videos of how to add muscle mass (I know, I'm behind everyone else) and after going to his site I gotta say- he's a super cutie who's a clever online entrepreneur.

Now, I know a lot of people either love him or hate him (for the stupid reason of him being "stereotypical") but I kind of like him. He knows how to market his stuff and get himself out there. The no shirt videos grab your attention, and then you how good looking he is. But then you hear his message that he's telling you and think "this guy is smarter than he's letting on."

I'm more interested not in how to get six pack abs or what he did today but him as a person, even though his blog has some good insightful posts and he's managed to turn his site into a successful entrepreneurial brand. (Am I developing have a crush on him also?)

But reading how to tone up wouldn't hurt since I'm a skinny guy and would like to add a bit more muscle mass.

Love him or hate him I get the feeling he's a genuinely nice guy who's pretty dang sharp- and cute too. :)

Don't Be Afraid to Ask Someone Out

I came across a great post and thought I'd share it with my readers here. This is a great post of how something you're looking for can be right in front of you.

"So here's my story I knew a friend of mine that I had known for a long time eventually over the years our friendship turned into sexual attraction and we even dated once but unfortunately at the time I was leaving for a work contract in Dubai/Milan.

It really stunk because I had an amazing time! After a year I had returned and he'd moved to Toronto as well from London and while we both were busy settling down again we dint really date and soon enough started seeing other people

I kept bumping into him at random places and we always had a good time but dint think that either of us were interested more than friends.. this was until I kept thinking of the good times in my dreams subconsciously over long periods of time and i have no idea why.

finally it hit me I was starting to have regrets and was getting frustrated, so one morning I decided to take charge of my life and i directly went to him and asked him why the hell dint he ever date me again ever since I returned.. and that's when i found out he thought I wasn't interested in him and was flattered that i even thought of him and that he had thoughts about me too.. ugh why are guys so clueless sometimes!

I just dint want to have regrets so I thought going out of the way and embarrassing myself for a day was a better deal than regretting it all my life

so yeah I'm soooo glad I asked him out, feels a great load of my chest, it doesn't mean I have a great potential new boyfriend or anything because we're probably going to take it one step at a time and see how it goes but it sure does feel great knowing if i never asked out I'd be missing a lot in my life!"

The opportunities you don't take are the one's you regret the most. More next time.

YouTuber's to Follow

There are a bunch of great gay You Tube channels out there but there are two You Tuber's who (at least in my opinion) give out some great advice for the younger gay generation. Couver87 and Straightactinggayguy are two guy who's content I follow and respect. You can find a same of their videos below:

http://www.youtube.com/user/Couver87

http://www.youtube.com/user/StraightActingGayGuy

There are also these great YouTuber's to follow:

http://www.youtube.com/depfox

www.youtube.com/ExplorationB

www.youtube.com/big93scott

www.youtube.com/DrunkenLullaby52

www.youtube.com/nikdynamic

http://www.youtube.com/RolyunGashaa

www.youtube.com/xypowerpop

Have a great YouTube channel that you think that can help other gay and bi guys? Post it below in the comments section.

Overcoming Loneliness

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DADT Repealed

Finally after 17 years of an unnecessary, homophobic policy and after much childish excuse making Don't Ask Don't Tell has finally been repealed. While this is a step in the right direction for this nation in terms of human rights we still have to play catch up with more progressive countries.

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Evolution of Sexuality

Is sexuality evolving or is the GLBT community gaining more acceptance?

It's actually a little of both.

Most notably acceptance is quickly being gained by younger generations, specifically gen x and gen y. The number of high school students identifying as gay or bisexual is increasing and has been increasing over the years. There has been a complete paradigm shift in attitudes with this age group and it doesn't have to do with rebellion or trying not to be their parents. It has to do with the fact that many know it's natural and can see right though homophobia.

In addition it's not "cool" to be homophobic because it's signals closed minded and uneducated it and announces your insecurity of differences.

During the late 1990's 9% of high school students identify as "gay, lesbian, bisexual or questioning according to one study. Source

Last month a study came out revealing nearly 10% of New York City high school students have had a partner of the same sex. That's hundreds of thousand of people. The percentages are also similar for college students and might even be a little higher than that. These numbers reported people who filled out the survey and admitted it openly (out of the closet). If the percentage of closeted gay and bi teens had been factored it would be higher.

Across  pond these figures are higher. In Europe homophobia still exists but in small doses these days and sexuality- gay, bi or straight- is regarded as normal. One study last month studied sexuality with British high school students and the results surprised me a bit: same sex kissing is common with teen and college males. From the study:


"Based on in-depth interviews of 145 British university and high-school students, Anderson and his colleagues discovered that 89 percent had kissed a male heterosexual friend on the lips at some point. A total of 37 percent had engaged in "sustained" kissing with another man, Anderson said."

Maybe it's experimenting or maybe it's just a fun game of "gay chicken"...?

Or maybe it's something else.

One thing about European youth and other nations is they don't like labels defining their sexuality, they understand humans are sexual beings. America is slowly catching onto this fact with more and more people coming out as gay or bi at younger ages. Most people know that sexuality isn't black or white but a lot of them don't talk about it- until now.

Is sexuality evolving? Is it becoming more accepted?

It's a bit of both. And it will continue to evolve.