Sunday, April 10, 2011

Studying the Gay Stereotypes

OKCupid conducted a great study last year that I kept forgetting to make a post about. They wanted to test if some of the stereotypes hold water about the GLBT community or if they're just that- stereotypes.

The took data samples from the their 3.2 million users and crunched the numbers some of what they found was surprising, some was not so surprising.

The first thing they tested was the myth that gay guys are chasing after straight guys and are absolutely obsessed with them.

"We combed through over 4 million match searches, and found virtually no evidence of it:
Match Search Returns
  • only 0.6% of gay men have ever searched for straight matches.
  • only 0.1% of lesbians have ever searched for straight matches.
  • only 0.13% of straight people's profile visitors are gay."
Despite what you read on forums, blogs and especially Craigslist gay guys aren't after straight guys. (I'm not going to get in the whole straight acting debate as that's a whole other post and a pandora's box.)

Then they tested out if gay men are more promiscuous than straight men. There's a lot of people who believe just because people are gay means they hookup more than polar opposite sexualities. Here's what OK Cupid found after combing through 4 million profiles where users reported the number of sex partners:
Median Reported Sex Partners
  • straight men: 6
  • gay men: 6
  • straight women: 6
  • gay women: 6
Even though the medians are all suspiciously 6 I believe gay men aren't any more promiscuous than straights. Humans- gay or straight- who are sexually active are going to have numerous sex partners. But the majority of people (gay or straight) are not going to be indiscriminately having sex with just anybody else. Being sexually active and being promiscuous are two different things.
Here's a graph of the above data:
Here's some surprising and interesting data. OK Cupid looked at same sex experience and attraction in self identified straight people to double check for bisexual/ curious leanings. Here's what they found for men: "As for straight men, a surprisingly high 13% have had a same-sex experience, and another 5% haven't yet but would like to."  
13% may not seem high but there are hundreds of millions of men in this nation (around 150 million currenlty) and when you take 13% of them you get nearly 20 million. That's a huge number- almost the size of the NYC metro population in fact.


As for women, well the graph speaks for itself:

Then, they looked at some really interesting data- where are all these curious guys in the country? They took the location in the profiles from these guys and gals and created a curious heat map of the US and Canada and here's what they found:

The geography of the bisexual/ curious guys is very interesting and surprising. First of all Canada is where they all are apparently but look at the Northwest. Washington state is the most curious/ bi state in America and it's not just because of all the open minded younger people in Seattle either- they're all over the state. And finally the Northeast which is not that surprising.

What is even more interesting is looking at the metro areas. San Francisco is obvious but the other cities aren't what you'd think. Madison, St.Louis, Austin, Phoenix, Las Vegas (what happens in Vegas really does stay in Vegas), Pittsburgh, Salt Lake City, Kansas City, Columbus and Minneapolis. A large group of the cities are in the Midwest and plain states. 
You'd think New York and Miami would be bright red but apparently not according to the findings of the team at OK Cupid. It's interesting to think why this is. Possible because there's a large out GLBT population in New York and other major gay meccas so it's easier to be out and have outlets to explore your curiosity/ bisexuality. Maybe it's the presence of colleges there, a lot of curious/bi guys in college and the number of open minded guys on college campuses is increasing.
Interesting data nonetheless.

Despite what the south reported I'm sure there's more repressed curiosity going on down there than they're letting on, especially in Mississippi and Alabama.

The Photgraphy of Bruce Weber

Bruce Weber, better known as Abercrombie and Fitch's rock star photographer, has some great images that celebrate the male form in an artful, tasteful and sensual way.

I actually, don't think there's enough of this type of imagery in advertising that focuses on men because there's so much image (sexualization) of female models in ads and they are the main focal point in ads and America in general is less comfortable with bare skin in advertising than other countries, specifically Europe.

Whatever you think of the A&F brand here's some of my favorite Bruce Weber images:

Lot of Weber's images remind me of summer so this one is only fitting.




Weber himself is gay and that's why I think the A&F brand has become so popular with the GB community because these images tap right into our desires and play to our psyche. More on that later.

Saturday, April 2, 2011

Leaning Towards the Davey Wavey Fan Club

I've recently discovered Davey Wavey on YouTube after looking up videos of how to add muscle mass (I know, I'm behind everyone else) and after going to his site I gotta say- he's a super cutie who's a clever online entrepreneur.

Now, I know a lot of people either love him or hate him (for the stupid reason of him being "stereotypical") but I kind of like him. He knows how to market his stuff and get himself out there. The no shirt videos grab your attention, and then you how good looking he is. But then you hear his message that he's telling you and think "this guy is smarter than he's letting on."

I'm more interested not in how to get six pack abs or what he did today but him as a person, even though his blog has some good insightful posts and he's managed to turn his site into a successful entrepreneurial brand. (Am I developing have a crush on him also?)

But reading how to tone up wouldn't hurt since I'm a skinny guy and would like to add a bit more muscle mass.

Love him or hate him I get the feeling he's a genuinely nice guy who's pretty dang sharp- and cute too. :)

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Don't Be Afraid to Ask Someone Out

I came across a great post and thought I'd share it with my readers here. This is a great post of how something you're looking for can be right in front of you.

"So here's my story I knew a friend of mine that I had known for a long time eventually over the years our friendship turned into sexual attraction and we even dated once but unfortunately at the time I was leaving for a work contract in Dubai/Milan.

It really stunk because I had an amazing time! After a year I had returned and he'd moved to Toronto as well from London and while we both were busy settling down again we dint really date and soon enough started seeing other people

I kept bumping into him at random places and we always had a good time but dint think that either of us were interested more than friends.. this was until I kept thinking of the good times in my dreams subconsciously over long periods of time and i have no idea why.

finally it hit me I was starting to have regrets and was getting frustrated, so one morning I decided to take charge of my life and i directly went to him and asked him why the hell dint he ever date me again ever since I returned.. and that's when i found out he thought I wasn't interested in him and was flattered that i even thought of him and that he had thoughts about me too.. ugh why are guys so clueless sometimes!


I just dint want to have regrets so I thought going out of the way and embarrassing myself for a day was a better deal than regretting it all my life

so yeah I'm soooo glad I asked him out, feels a great load of my chest, it doesn't mean I have a great potential new boyfriend or anything because we're probably going to take it one step at a time and see how it goes but it sure does feel great knowing if i never asked out I'd be missing a lot in my life!"


The opportunities you don't take are the one's you regret the most. More next time.

Monday, January 10, 2011

YouTuber's to Follow

There are a bunch of great gay You Tube channels out there but there are two You Tuber's who (at least in my opinion) give out some great advice for the younger gay generation. Couver87 and Straightactinggayguy are two guy who's content I follow and respect. You can find a same of their videos below:





There are also these great YouTuber's to follow:


Have a great YouTube channel that you think that can help other gay and bi guys? Post it below in the comments section.

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Overcoming Loneliness

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Saturday, December 18, 2010

DADT Repealed

Finally after 17 years of an unnecessary, homophobic policy and after much childish excuse making Don't Ask Don't Tell has finally been repealed. While this is a step in the right direction for this nation in terms of human rights we still have to play catch up with more progressive countries.

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